Blessed Are They That Mourn

In our first post The Art of Being Human, we began to study out the BE-Attitudes. Sometimes, we need to just stop running from thing to thing and just BE who we were called to be. Sometimes, instead of thinking it’s all supposed to be happy and beautiful in our lives, we need to realize that a little rain is going to come into each of our lives and that we have to be just as accepting of the joy or the mourning. We must learn to live in peace with our circumstances.

Matthew 5:4 Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.

Doesn’t this seem like a verse that is not supposed to be in the Bible? I mean think about it, those people who mourn are blessed? It doesn’t make sense at all. I know that when my husband died I felt anything but blessed. When I crawled into our closet at night and sat on the floor and slipped my feet into his big shoes and cried my eyes out, I wasn’t feeling blessed at all. I can’t even say that I was feeling comforted.

The key to these lessons that Jesus was trying to teach us though, was that we shouldn’t look upon comfort as the world sees it. The world sees comfort in terms of a feeling of well being but we who love God see comfort in the stability of Him. In knowing that even in those dark times He is with us. He is never out of reach. Maybe we aren’t feeling the comfort in the moment of mourning but we take comfort in knowing, without a doubt, that the comfort is on its way.

What about when we mourn our sin? If we are quick to repent the comfort is quick in coming. What about when we mourn for others and the situations they are in? Mourning isn’t always about death sometimes mourning is about sorrow. It’s about situations and people who have made choices or are in circumstances that make us feel sad. We are comforted when we pray for those who so desperately need an answer from God, knowing the answer is on its way if they will heed.

We also know that we live in a temporal world. It’s all temporary. So our mourning, as it came on suddenly, will leave eventually. In the meantime, we have the peace and the comfort of knowing that its in the control of God and that He will see us through.

Reading through the New Testament we see where Jesus wept and was saddened for the condition of humanity and yet he was comforted in knowing that the solution to that condition would arrive shortly. We must also be assured that although mourning comes to every life. So does comfort and that brings us joy in the end.

Published in: on August 21, 2008 at 2:14 am Comments (1)
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Inflammatory Breast Cancer

My friend Cynthia sent this video to me and I had never heard of this disease before. I want to warn all the women and men who read this blog about this important disease. It is often caught too late and like me, most women knew nothing about it! Please be warned that it is graphic and to watch on YouTube you must be over 18. Moms and Dads talk to your kids about this!

Published in: on August 20, 2008 at 2:08 am Comments (1)
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I Found The Bees

As the bee population diminishes and no one is exactly sure why, I found a lot of them at David Ranch. Maybe they just decided to go on a permanent vacation. I can’t say I really blame them.

We were on a ranch that is a no hunt zone. This kinda worried me when the manager of the property said that as we hiked we needed to be aware that there were many wild boars out there, plenty of deer, coyotes and there had been some bobcat sightings and one bear sighting. Okay, so they can hunt us but we can’t hunt them. I was feeling a little scared and then she dropped the big bomb! Be careful about poison oak, it’s really bad this year. I am a city girl, I don’t even know what poison oak looks like. My husband is no help to me at this point either, he goes, “Oh, I’m immune to it. I had a horrible case as a child and after that it never bothered me.” I replied, “Okay, but what does it look like because I’ve never had it and I don’t want it!” He was very helpful at this point, “It looks like a vine.” Okay, to me everything looked like a vine!

So I walked around scared and itchy thinking that any moment we were going to encounter a wild boar or get trapped by some poison oak. We encountered nothing. As my husband pointed out deer tracks in the dirt and coyote poop and “cat” poop, we saw nothing. I will say though that on the way back to the cabin, on one of our hikes, there was a foul odor. My husband said, “Ew! There was a skunk around here at some point.” I wanted to run at this point because now my biggest fear was not the boar or the poison oak, it was the skunk.

After we got back to the cabin, I relaxed a little and thought it through. Our days are planned by God. Whatever is going to happen is going to happen so why do I worry? As the bible says, it doesn’t add a single day to my life. I walked around snapping pictures, talking to my husband and looking over my shoulder for what? My husband had clearly told me that most animals run from humans. I really wasn’t in danger per se. I realized I got worked up over nothing.

Doesn’t that happen to all of us? We are so afraid of the “what-ifs” that we don’t enjoy the “what is”. So what is it in your life that has you looking behind your shoulder? What is that keeps you from enjoying the moment you are in? How real is the fear you have? Lots of questions but they lead us to real answers. Next time I will do better! I hope you do too!

Published in: on August 19, 2008 at 2:27 am Comments (1)
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Ariel Community Academy

I am impressed! I watched this video and listened intently and when it was over all I could say was, “Wow!” “Wow!”

Imagine if these types of magnet schools could be duplicated? Our children would be learning skills that would get them through life. This excites me.

The concept was started in Chicago to teach African American students about business. They take the children from kindergarten through eighth grade and teach them about investing in the stock market. The children are given $20,000 as a class in first grade and the money is invested teaching them along the way how to invest it because they will take over those investments in sixth grade. They get quarterly reports that are easy for children to read. They use apples to show whether they made money (an apple) or lost money (a half apple). They begin to view the world in terms of business and how it functions. In this capitalist society this is important for them to know. The math skills of the children went up as did their vocabulary skills as you can see when you watch this video.

When they reach eighth grade they have to give half away to a charity of their choice. They have to give $20,000 to the incoming first grade class and the remainder they split among the children to invest. How incredible. They not only see their buying power as consumers they also see their investing potential based on what is popular among their friends. It blows me away.

Watch this video and I pray you are as amazed as I am. Maybe it will prompt some good ideas on how to get this started in our area! Education beyond the four walls of a classroom and the interconnection between the business world that these children will enter one day is vital if we are going to change society. For children to be set up in life to be comfortable in the business market is such an incredible gift. Honestly, as a Hispanic woman, I want us to catch this concept of business. As a follower of Christ why not is the question that keeps getting asked in my heart!

Bible Study In The Woods

You would think living with a Pastor as I do, that our discussions would be about the bible all the time. They are and they aren’t. Scripture pops up naturally in our conversations as we discuss sermons and the like, but we don’t always sit and just talk about what the Lord is revealing to us. Last week as we trekked around David Ranch we had time to hike and talk and plan and talk. It really was refreshing. With all the Lord’s art work around us, it’s easy to fall into a conversation about our love of God.

Those conversations turn into revelations as we see how much the other has grown since the last time we truly talked about things other than the day to day stuff. I know many people get jaded about their time with the Lord. It’s as if the newness wears off and the mundane takes over but not for us. We still wonder and marvel at the Lord and all of His glory. As we walk along the shore we can’t help but discuss how blessed we are.

We begin to see each other as gifts from the Lord rather than to take each other for granted which is the case most days. We begin to look at each other with a fresh eye.

And time just seems to relax our facial expressions and posture as the weight of the load that we carry is diminished in these moments.

It really is important to take time out as a couple and even more important to share your faith with each other. So often I think since my husband is a Pastor that he doesn’t need to hear about my faith but he does. He needs the encouragement just like we all do. Make today a good day to let some of the things of this world go and get back to the important things of family and love!

See you at church!

Prostitution On The Ballot

San Francisco has managed to put on the November ballot the decriminalization of prostitution. Is anyone else worried about California?

While we are voting on what constitutes a marriage, we are giving condoms to prisoners, condemning the Catholic church for its religious right and privilege to freedom in this country, and trying to decriminalize prostitution. As a woman, a mother, a wife and a follower of Christ, I have opinions with all of these issues. I feel as though there are things being crammed down my throat that erode our freedoms rather than enforce them. May God help us all.

Faith Under Fire

I know this blog is a month late in getting to you but I still thought it was important enough for all of us to be aware of what is happening. This is a true example of twisted tolerance. Meaning, people tend to be tolerant of those things they agree on and call everyone else’s opinion or belief hateful or intolerant. In my opinion this is the true example of hypocrisy in action.

Our youth group was one of the groups in San Francisco during the time they are speaking of. The kids were pretty rattled as they asked us why the picketers hated them when they didn’t even know them. It was very sad.

FAITH UNDER FIRE
Major U.S. city officially condemns Catholic Church Instructs members to
defy ‘Holy Office of Inquisition’

Posted: July 15, 2008
8:48 pm Eastern

(c) 2008 WorldNetDaily
A San Francisco city and county board resolution that officially labeled the Catholic church’s moral teachings on homosexuality as “insulting to all San Franciscans,” “hateful,” “defamatory,” “insensitive” and “ignorant” will be challenged tomorrow in court for violating the Constitution’s prohibition of government hostility toward religion. Resolution 168-08, passed unanimously by the City and County of San Francisco Board of Supervisors two years ago, also accused the Vatican of being a “foreign country” meddling with and attempting to “negatively influence (San Francisco’s) existing and established customs.” It said of the church’s teaching on homosexuality, “Such hateful and discriminatory rhetoric is both insulting and callous, and shows a level of insensitivity and ignorance which has seldom been encountered by this Board of Supervisors.”

As WND reported earlier, Resolution 168-08 was an official response to the Catholic Church’s ban on adoption placements into homosexual couple households, issued by Cardinal William Levada of the Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith at the Vatican. The board’s resolution urged the city’s local archbishop and the Catholic Charities of the Archdiocese of San Francisco to defy the Vatican’s instructions, concluding with a spiteful reminder that the church authority that issued the ban was known 100 years ago as “The Holy Office of the Inquisition.” The resolution also took a shot at Levada, the former archbishop of San Francisco, saying, “Cardinal Levada is a decidedly unqualified
representative of his former home city, and of the people of San Francisco and the values they hold dear.”

The anti-Catholic diatribe had previously been challenged in U.S. District Court on similar grounds, but District Judge Marilyn Hall Patel ruled in favor of the city, saying, in essence, the church started it. She wrote in her decision, “The Congregation of the Doctrine of the Faith provoked this debate, indeed may have invited entanglement” for instructing Catholic politicians on how to vote. “This court does not find that our case law requires political bodies to remain silent in the face of provocation.”
She ruled that the city’s proclamation was not entangling the government in church affairs, since the resolution was a non-binding, non-regulatory announcement.

Since no law was enacted, she ruled, city officials - even in their official capacity as representatives of the government - can say what they want. “It is merely the exercise of free speech rights by duly elected office holders,” she wrote. Richard Thompson, president and chief counsel of the Thomas More Law Center, which is appealing the District Court decision on behalf of the Catholic League for Religious and Civil Rights and two Catholic residents of San Francisco, disagrees with Patel’s decision.
“Sadly, the ruling itself clearly exhibited hostility toward the Catholic Church,” he said in a news release. “The judge in her written decision held that the Church ‘provoked the debate’ by publicly expressing its moral teaching, and that by passing the resolution the City responded ‘responsibly’ to all of the ‘terrible’ things the Church was saying.”

Thomas More attorney Robert Muise will present oral arguments in the case tomorrow morning in the Ninth Circuit Court of Appeals. “Our Constitution plainly forbids hostility toward any religion, including the Catholic faith,” he said in a news release. “In total disregard for the Constitution, homosexual activists in positions of authority in San Francisco have abused their authority as government officials and misused the instruments of the government to attack the Catholic Church. Their egregious abuse of power has now the backing of a lower federal court. … Unfortunately, all too often we see a double standard being applied in Establishment Clause cases,” Muise said. Thomas More attorneys made the argument in the District Court case that the “anti-Catholic resolution sends a clear message” that Catholics are “outsiders, not full members of the political community.” The cultural, and now political, straight-arm to adherents of the Christian faith in San Francisco has been increasingly public in the last two years. Just one week after the anti-Catholic resolution was passed, the San Francisco Board issued a similar resolution against a mostly evangelical group.

Following a gathering of 25,000 teens at San Francisco’s AT&T Park as part of Ron Luce’s Teen Mania “Battle Cry for a Generation” rally against the sexualization of America’s youth culture by advertisers and media, the board spoke out formally again. According to the San Francisco Chronicle, the Board of Supervisors unanimously passed a resolution condemning the “act of provocation” by what it termed an “anti-gay,” “anti-choice” organization that aimed to “negatively influence the politics of America’s most tolerant and progressive city.”

Openly gay California Assemblyman Mark Leno told protesters of the teen rally that though such religious people may be few, “they’re loud, they’re obnoxious, they’re disgusting, and they should get out of San Francisco.” The Chronicle also reported on a San Francisco protester against the evangelical youth rally carrying a sign that may sum up the sentiment: “I moved here to get away from people like you.” The Thomas More Law Center hopes the Ninth Circuit Court of Appeals will decide in the case of Resolution 1680-08 that even if a large portion of the community is at odds with a religion’s views on homosexuality, the government cannot be used as a weapon to condemn religious faith.

Currently, as WND has reported, the states of Colorado and Michigan are tackling the question of whether the Bible itself can be vilified as “hate speech” for it’s condemnation of homosexuality, and Canada has developed human rights commissions, which have decided people cannot express opposition to homosexuality without fear of government reprisal.

The Pastor’s Retreat at David Ranch

We had the most wonderful week last week. We went to David Ranch in Jenner, California. David Ranch sits off of Highway 116 nestled between Guerneville and Bodega Bay. It is in Russian River territory where the Russian River meets the Pacific Ocean.

All I can say is it is 162 acres of beautiful. We stayed in one of the cabins on the property a little one bedroom cozy and comfortable place. The cabin was originally built for the owners of the property and remained private and mostly unused for over 20 years. They have just recently opened it up for guests. So the cottage is set up with everything you would need to stay for several days. All we had to do was bring clothes and food!

The back had a nice deck to sit out on and read. It also had a gas grill but since my husband thinks BBQ is an art, he does not use gas when grilling, so we ran into town to buy a small grill.

We took our 4WD truck up there and we were glad we did. We got to hit the trails and drive to where we wanted to explore and then hike to see some very beautiful sites. Here is the top of David Ranch where you can overlook where the Russian River meets the Pacific Ocean.

This wonderful retreat is free for Pastor’s in full-time ministry to stay for a few days and take a break. For a fee you can have a church retreat there as well. I will be posting more pictures and stories of our adventures in the days to come. We had some fun moments and saw some beautiful sites here and I want to share them all with you!

For The Hurting Step Parent

Every month I get the Successful Stepfamilies Newsletter via email. This article so touched my heart because it tells the story of a step mother, trying her best and feeling like a failure. I often wonder why God derailed my life to raise a second family and feel the pain and heartache of all that it entails but I remind myself that nothing is a coincidence.

God has a reason for everything. Being a stepmom has given me perspectives I never dreamed possible. I realize that I am not the only one with scars from the battle. Every member of this family walks away with a story. The end result though is that there is not a lot of understanding in the church about stepfamilies. We as a group want to deny that it is different from a normal family. We want to sweep the problems under the rug. We want to blame the person because they weren’t fill in the blank enough. Fill in the blank with words like, spiritual, prayed up, patient, loving, smart, merciful, graceful. So many people pretend that all is well in their home. That the fairytale works and that everyone lives happily ever after but that is not always the case at all. It’s tough work.

The Pastor in this story is pretty typical of the blame placed on the stepparent who is left holding the bag. It’s not because he’s a mean pastor, it’s just that he doesn’t get it. Having never been in the situation of a stepparent, he thinks he has solutions yet he can’t possibly know about them. It’s not that he wasn’t trying to be helpful but he just didn’t have perspective.

Maybe that is the reason that we went through our years of personal hell. We are now able to speak to people practically and understand what they are going through and know what to do. It doesn’t mean our lives are perfect and we have it all together but it’s radically better than in the beginning. The rest will work itself out and I speak that in faith!

Soul Mates

In Greek Mythology it was thought that humans were originally created with four arms and four legs and one head with two faces. The thought of a soul mate has always been popular with romantics everywhere.

I don’t subscribe to the theory of soul mates as I don’t believe our souls were created to be attached to any given person. I believe our soul’s function is to have relationship with God. To say that our souls were created for one particular person is like saying God created us to find a needle in a haystack. There are over six billion people on the planet and I don’t think that there is only one person out there for you. I believe that there are many people who would suit your personality, temperament and lifestyle. Your goal is to find and fall in love with a person who fits those qualifications.

Further, to say that we were each created with a soul mate says that those who were created by God for singleness were created incomplete. I don’t believe in the theory that God makes anyone or anything incomplete. If our souls are eternal then does that mean that our soul mates are only for our time on earth? I mean the bible says that there are no marriages in heaven.

Matthew 22:24 “Teacher,” they said, “Moses told us that if a man dies without having children, his brother must marry the widow and have children for him. 25 Now there were seven brothers among us. The first one married and died, and since he had no children, he left his wife to his brother. 26 The same thing happened to the second and third brother, right on down to the seventh. 27 Finally, the woman died. 28 Now then, at the resurrection, whose wife will she be of the seven, since all of them were married to her?” 29 Jesus replied, “You are in error because you do not know the Scriptures or the power of God. 30 At the resurrection people will neither marry nor be given in marriage; they will be like the angels in heaven.

Although I don’t believe in soul mates I do believe in soul ties. That is when our souls connect with people so strongly that we in essence tie ourselves to one another. A soul tie though does not imply a soul mate. A soul tie can be good or bad in nature and is not necessarily connected to a romantic attachment. So while the idea of a soul mate sounds great, I don’t think it was ever the intention of God.

I believe every person was created with a need in their soul for God. He is that gap in our soul that we try to fill with someone or something else. Whether we yet recognize it or not, we have a deep desire to connect with something outside of ourselves. Many can’t put their finger on the desire they feel because they simply don’t know what it is. Yet, in the beginning, before the foundation of the earth, you were complete in God. Somewhere through time we lost the connection. It is that connection to God, our source, that we long for.

May you find your soul’s missing piece not in the people or things of this world but in God because he is truly satisfying.

Published in: on August 12, 2008 at 2:44 am Comments (1)
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